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=**Harmony in Family Stop Violence**= The children repeat whatever the parents do in the house. media type="youtube" key="Pu4LuTD2870" height="225" width="343" align="center"

=**Domestic Violence**= Domestic violence can be anybody in the world, physically or emotionally between adult in a relationshio or family members. In this video it's not only the women and children that get hurt from violence but men get hurt from the violence as well. But if you try to fight back then it may further violence and their children could be abused too. media type="youtube" key="sm1ZEQTtCm4" height="266" width="368" align="center"

**__Family Violence __** Violence is one of the big problems that we all should deal with, because violence in the family can be caused by alcoholic, drugs, and it’s really dangerous to the family, especially the children. So parents should stop it and protect their children from the violence. if the parents are not going to stop then the children needs help from someone else to remove them to another place or a program that can help them get out of the family violence. Violence in the family is really dangerous, so what is violence? How can you help the family violence?

According the James C. Howell and Scott H. Decker, “violence is a part of the everyday life of gang members, even when they are a part from the gang; it’s in their neighborhoods and within families.” (4). Any violence that happen into any part of the family, it’s going to have violence in every part of the family. So all the people in over the world should know and understand about the family violence. Don’t let it happen in the family that used to be happy and lovely. In September, 2000 was 95 % of the victims of domestic violence are women. Drinking proceeds acts of family violence in 25-50 % of all cases of domestic violence. (6). And in 1998-2011 have between 1.6 and 2 million older Americans become victims of abuse. (8). It’s a bad thing that the people don’t like.

 The problems of children abuse are start from their parents and specially are from their father. And the father become alcoholic because of the problem that they had in the family or some people is just the way they are. When the father doesn’t have any money for drinking alcohol then they ask their wife for it. But when their wife don’t give the money to them then the father start to be mad become violence to the family and hit their children that try to help their mother. The children are always getting hurt when ever their parents are fighting. The children got beat up from the father almost every single day. Geri Redden state, “families need help early in the children’s lives to break cycle.” Basically, Geri Redden is saying that the families need to help the children to get out from the family violence.

The parents should know the violent home is really important because in Geri Reddens view, “violence in any part of the family equals violence in every part.” (4). Geri Reddens point is that the family want to get out from the violence and if in any part of the family have violence which mean the whole family is going to deal with that solution. And the violence family is not going to bring any good activities to their children but in the opposite way they will bring to their children is the dangerous. Example: when the children cannot handle of their violent home then they will run away from the house to join gang members, become a drug user, or other bad things. Violence in the family is a part of the illegal crime for the U.S law that most of the people in the U.S want to go away from.

Family violence is one of the most popular violence crimes in America. And alcohols can make the people become violence also. Mr. Leang is a father that has violence and always brings violence to the house every time that he came from drinking alcohol. Because of he have too much alcohol in his body, its make him loose control and beat up his family. And some time if he drinks too much and he cannot control himself from it then he may end up by killing somebody. Mr. Leang is never beat anybody up beside his family. The children’s never happy every time when their father come home from outside.

When Mr. Leang lost his control from drinking alcohol he’s always hit Mrs. Leang and the children also. Some time when Mr. Leang hit Mrs. Leang really bad that she cannot handle it anymore then she fights him back but she couldn’t beat him up because she’s weaker than her husband. And the children got hit from their father also and they’re don’t know what to do, then they just sit down in one place together and cried. Geri Redden says, “you and children are sitting on a time bomb.” (5). In other words, Geri Redden believes the mother and children are sitting on the same situation, they stay at the same problem and the problem is they’ve got beaten up by their father. Family violence can cause children to lose their focus on school.

All the violence can affect children’s lives. When Mr. and Mrs. Leang are violent every day, it can make their children uncomfortable then quit school. Then they’ll not think right and hang out with gang members, selling drugs at clubs, drinking alcohol to forget their pain, and etc. It’s a big problem the parents have to deal with when their children quit school.

 After the children can’t handle their home violence, they just want to hang out with their friends and do illegal stuff outside. When they go out to have fun with friends, but return home to family violence, it causes them to want to live in a happier place and feel they can get there by running away from home. Hence parents should help their children out of these situations. If the children don’t get help from anybody else and see their parents fighting everyday at home, then they’ll grow up to be just like them.

Every time that their parents fight, the children always see and learn some violence from them. When children see their parents fighting every day, it makes them want to try it to other kids that live around them. Every time Mr. and Mrs. Leang’s children become jealous of other children, they want to beat them up like their father used to beat them up. Like Geri Redden states, “children who are raised in violent homes may learn to repeat the family patterns either by becoming abusers or battered themselves as adults.” (4). Geri Redden is insisting that whatever their parents do in the house, the children will learn and repeat what they did. So the children may become abusers when they grow up. The Leang’s family has a problem because Mr. Leang drinking alcohol and beating up everyone in the house.

If the parents don’t stop the violence now the children will cause trouble growing up. If Mr. Leang abuses the children or mother, they can call the police to come and take him away to a Group Home where they’ll teach him how to stop the violence and how it affects the children’s lives. When the children see their parents fighting, it influences them to hit, throw swear, break, and etc. when they’re upset or mad and have a bad attitude. But it’s most dangerous when the children become abusers too and start to make problems outside the house. They may fight with people who make fun of their violent home and sometimes the children may end up out of control and kill people. It can be too late though there are ways to help women and children out of family violence.

When the violence becomes really bad to Mr. and Mrs. Leang and the children cannot handle it anymore then the mother and children should move out of the house to live in another place or the children should move out to live in a Group Home or foster care that can take care of them. A Group Home program helps abused children, has school to teach them to get skills and has a place for them to live.

 “I understand why many people believe that a woman should leave a relationship with a man who batters them. But I think the violence does not stop when the relationship ends, because the violence depends on the person. Even though the relationship ends, violence is still on because the violent people are just the way they are. So if the father’s an abuser then the mother should protect the children and send the father to a Group Home to let them teach him how the family lives change when the home’s in violence.” –Molykar. When abused children is removed to another place from their violent home, it’s not always a useful strategy and sometimes may not be safe if you put them in the wrong place because of the other children live next to their house will make fun of them.

Finally, the children are unsafe if they live in a violent home. Violence in the family causes a lot of the problems and affects the children’s lives also. So the parents should understand and pay attention to their children and the parents should also protect their children from any violence can cause bad things to their children.

To conclude, family violence is growing in the United States. This is one of the big problems in America, and violent homes can affect the children’s lives. The more violence in the family, the more stressful the children get. The people should deal with this issue and the children should get up and deal with this issue also. By leaving their parents to live by themselves and find the better place to live as far away from the violent home as possible if their parents won’t stop. The children can ask for help from the police, government or from the program that can help them to remove from their violent home.


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My social issue that i'm going to research is the dangers of family violence. The point that make me want to research about this it's because of one of the family that i know is not a good family and it can be reallu dangerous to the children in that family. Children can go to the wrong way because of their parents. So in that family has two kids ( boy and girl) and the parents. Most of the weeks when the father get out from work, he's like to go out with his friends to drink untill midnight.======

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I think the solution of thos problem is the father drinking alcohol every time when he has stressful from work and that can end up by effect the family unhappy and embarassing. Every time when the father come back home from drinking he always fighting his wife and some time the kids get trouble with him also because of they're helping their mother. So by this reason it's make thir kids dont want to stay home with their parents. they just want to go out wiht their friends and don't want to come back home to see their parents fighting every day or some time they just sleep at their friends houses. And after they're hang out a lot it's make them dont want to focus on school anymore. Specailly is their daughter, she start to thinking about sexual and maybe she can be pregnant. It's become a parents faults. And their son's will going to hang out with a wrong friends then they're start to have a group of gangers, and drugs, fighting and maybe he's going to be a murder by killing each other. so parents should change from violence in the family to love and help them to solve all the problem that they had.======

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My purpose for writing is the parents should think about their family first before they do something. And they should know what their children need, if they need you so you're the parents should help them out and teach them to be strong and smart. When they know that you're the parents can do every thinkgs for them when they need then your children will not think about the wrong way and not going to make you headache because of those stupid stuff from outside. And they will love and miss you a lot as a really good take career when they're not with you. Specailly is they will work hard for you, to make you really proud of them. so a lot of children are depend on their parents to======

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My research action plan is i need at least 8 sources and 42 notes card for my solution paper. One of the sources need to be print out, three database electronic materials, more than three sources need from the website and one to four can be interview, surveys, etc.======

The original solution in proposal is the father drinking alcohol every time when he has stressful from work and that can end up by effect the family unhappy and embarassing. Every time when the father come back home from drinking he always fighting his wife and some time the kids get trouble with him also because of they're helping their mother. So by this reason it's make thir kids dont want to stay home with their parents. they just want to go out wiht their friends and don't want to come back home to see their parents fighting every day or some time they just sleep at their friends houses. And after they're hang out a lot it's make them dont want to focus on school anymore. Specailly is their daughter, she start to thinking about sexual and maybe she can be pregnant. It's become a parents faults. And their son's will going to hang out with a wrong friends then they're start to have a group of gangers, and drugs, fighting and maybe he's going to be a murder by killing each other. so parents should change from violence in the family to love and help them to solve all the problem that they had.

After looking at my research, my solution is still feasible because even though violent home is the serious problem in every families but they can solve these problem in many different way. Most of the family violence is come from the father that got drunk and he can not control himself but some time the father just want to hit the family because he think by hiting the family is can solve his problem from some where else. When this problem happen every day to the family then the children really need help from somebody that can remove them out of the house to live in any programs that can help them out of the family violence.

The solution is specific enough because all my research is give me a lot of solution of the family violence and how the people can help the children.

Audience
My audience is to help the children deal with the family violence and stop the violent home. My solution that makes this audience listening to me is the father beat his family up because of the father's out of the control by drinking alcohol but there is a lot of the ways that the children can get out of the family violence. Either the father or the children should move out of the house to find the better place that can help them get out of the family violence. The father should resolve to counseling or foster care to link him in another group that can teach him about how to stop the violence. The abused children and mother should turn to living in group homes such as N.E. home that'll take them away from the violence so they can live happier lives.

List five pieces of information from my research that back my solution 1. it gets them away from abuse, like an escape 2.the family violence is really dangerous to the children 3. so they don't run away from home or hang out with their friends alot instead and do bad things 4. family violence is illegal 5.it effects the families lives. Example: children might quit school. The types of sources gave me the best information is the source that talk about the violence in the family and try to help the children out of it. I still need to know what would they do after they help the children out of the family violence?

Rhetorical Strategies
Strategy: Cause/Effect I have learned to solve the problem of the violent home by remove the children out of the house to lives in other place or in the group homes. it will work because the children need love and help from their parents but if the parents can not give it to them and give them a problem so they need to find their help from someone else. Strategy: Statistics Almosrt 40 % of violent crimes are committed by people that we know people that we live with or people htat we love. It will work becaise it easy for you to think how much different from back than and right now. Strategy: Defintion " family need help early in children's lives to break cycle" it wil work beacuse if in the family have violence then they need help from some where else to help their children.

**Generic Outline Format for the SAP **
<span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Thesis statement: **because family violence in the family caused by alcoholics can be dangerouse to families, especially children; so parents should stop it and protect the children, if not then the children need help from someone else to remove them to another place or the program that can protect them out of the family violence.** <span style="color: #a119d2; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';"> Hook – **isn't family violence effect the children life? what would can you help them?** <span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Bridge -- ** violence in the family is really dangerous ** <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">II. The Social Issue/Problem <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">III. Solutions to the Problem <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';"> The solution you feel is best to address this issue (support with research)-** i feel good with my fourth source because in that source they tell me a lot you i dear about the abuse children and women. ** //<span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">VI. Conclusion //
 * 1) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Define/describe the problem in detail (support with research)
 * 2) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">What is the problem? - **the problem is when the father got stressful from work and come back to see the poor family that cant help him to solve the problem that he has.**
 * 3) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">How widespread is it?- **its every widespread and happen globally**
 * 4) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Who does it affect?- **it affect the children life, it's change from good to bad life if it still have violence in the family.**
 * 5) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Where is it found?- ** it's found in home **
 * 6) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">What laws, key terms, concepts, etc. need to be defined?- **what, where, when, why, how.**
 * 7) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Discuss causes of the problem (support with research)
 * 8) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">First cause and explanation, examples, etc. – **﻿because of the family violence is the bedrock for virtually all of our social problems such a violent crime, homelessness and the next generation of alcoholics and drug addicts after the children leaves the houses. Ex: one day a child decide to run away from home to love in a froup of ten people because of violent in the family.**
 * 9) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Second cause… ﻿**children who have poor inpulse control stress disorders and feelings of powerlessness, they are at high risk for alcohol and drug use, sexual acting out and running away from home.**
 * 10) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">So forth…** the children will repeat everything from the parents do in the house. **
 * 11) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Discuss effects of the problem (support with research)
 * 12) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">1st effect with examples, statistics, etc.- **﻿after the children move to the better place that have no violence and then they can go to school and learn more to get better life. Ex: remove the children to the program that can take care of the children from violence or move them to live with another family or their relative that can take care of them.**
 * 13) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">2nd effect- **﻿when the children live in the good place, they are going to have a good idea to help their family after and in the future they may become the person that can help every families that have violent at home after they have been learn about it.**
 * 14) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">So forth- ** the children will help the other family about the violence if they had learn about the family violence, and find a better life for those children that got hurt from a violence homes like bring them to a group home that have shool and work for them. **
 * 15) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Why this issue/problem is important-
 * 16) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Why you care, - **﻿i care about this problem because violence is the big problem in the family, it's the violence crime and alegal. violence in the family can effect the children life from good to bad and sometime it can kill those families also.**
 * 17) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Why others should care- **the other people should care because this violence is not a game that you can play with to make a better life and it can effect your children and the other children too, which mean every person should care about this solution so they should stop it.**
 * 18) <span style="font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">The positive change you would like to see brought about. – **﻿i want to see all the violence in the families are stop and not going to happen to the children, and i would like to see all the families living in a happy life.**
 * 1) //<span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">Restate // <span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';">thesis – ** To conclude, family violence is growing in tghe United States. This is the one of hte big problems in America, and violent homes can effect the children's lives. The more violence in the family, the more stressful that children get. The people should deal with this issue and the children should get to deal with this issue also by leaving their parents to love by themselve and find the better place fro themselve as far way from the violent home as possible if their parents won't stop. The children can ask help from the police, government or from the program that can help them to remove from their home. **

__**Annotated Bibliography on The Dangers of Family Violence**__

Hicks John. "Dating Violence." True Stories of Hurt and Hope. Published by THe Millbrook Press, Inc. 2 Old New Milford Road Brookfield, Connnecticut 06804. Copyright 1996 by John Hicks. Book. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Hicks, John, 1951. This book article was talking about the problem that the young age teens going to get when they're start to dating and the dangerous of boy-girlfriends. The National Crime Survey estimates that about 10 percent of those nonstanger or "domestic" assaults are committed against women by boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. And it has more than 3 percent of all murders in the U.S are the result of someone's being killed by a girlsfriend or boyfriend. Interviews with abusers and victims from the basis of this dicussion of the characteristics and dangers of unhealthy relationships, the im portance of honest communication, and cooperative ways of resolving conflic.

Howell C. James and Decker H. Scott. "The Youth Ganges, Drugs, and Violence Connection." U.S Department of Justic. Office of Justic Programs. Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. Copyright of all the Photographs was 1998, Web. May 09, 2011. []. This online article evidence of gang migration for the explicit purpose of setting up drug-trafficking operations in distant locations. Although drug trafficking is strongly associated with other serious and violent crimes, gang member involvement in drug sales doesn't necessarily result in more frequent violent offenses.

Jaffer Peter, Crooks Claire, Poisson Samamntha. "Common Misconceptions in Addressing Domestic Violence in Child Custody Disputes." Juvenile and Family Court Journal. Published October 1, 2003. Web. May 11, 2011. []. In this online article have outlined misconceptions with respect to domestic violence and child custody that represent barriers to safety and accountability in these cases. Community services could dramatically improve the interventions available for future women and children in cuisis.

Redden, Geri M. "Violence in the Family." __National Association for Children of Alcoholics__ 09 May 2011. 19 May 2011 []. In this article is about the violence in the family. It's usualy cause by the father want to beat the family up, so many children and women become alcoholic or they are at high risk for alcohol and drug use, running away from home, and sexual acting out. And their chances for violence in the family are being to killed themselve. So they help to effect those problem by teach them learn how to help themselve and strong and know how to control their anger. And the children the ran away from the house can become a violent crime, homelessness and next generation of alcoholics and drug addicts.

Redden, Geri M. "Family Violence." Child and Family Services of New Hampshire 14 May 2011. Parentline@cfsnh.org. 23 May 2011 []. In this article she got hit from husband every time when he comes home from a stressful day at work. And some time the kids got hit from him also. He know that he was wrong and he usually apologizes to me, he say it won't happen again and that he didnt mean it, that he would stop but it contunues. She can't let him go because she need him to help her to take care of the children.

Koop, Everett C. "Domestic Violence Facts." __Tennessee Association of Alcohol, Drug and other Addiction Services |__. Sept. 2000. 01 June 2011 []. In this article violent men are more likely to abuse alcohol than nonviolent men. alcohol and drug abuse increases the likelihood of domestic violence; not only during periods of intoxication, but also during periods of sobriety.

N/A (author). "Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family." __National Network on Family Law Policy | At issue: child custody evaluations and therapeutic jurisprudence__. 31 May 2011. American Psychological Association, 750 First Street, NE, Washington, DC 20002-4262. 01 June 2011 []. In this article is about the family violence and violence in the family is not going to end in the easy way. Every type of violences are the legal, so its a serious problem that should help the women and the children. Specailly is children, should move them to live in another place that can make them have the better live and protect them from the family violences.

N/A (author). "Elder Abuse Information." __Home__ O2 June 2011. 02 June 2011 []. In this article is about an adult was abused by their parent. Over the last deveral year the national policy of elder abuse sdditional work in the development of programs to help families who must need help from. Without services for victims and their familis, they're cannot hope to break the cycle of abuse.